Sunday, November 21, 2010

Hadji, God, and Lies...

It was a first. Hadji came home and told me a bully had taken something from him. I know this sort of thing happens, but he was so pitiful with his head down, crying, saying, "It was the bestest rat ever." Then he told us the story...

A boy came up at the playground and said, "Give me that rat or I'm going to punch you in the nose." This is where the fact that Hadji had gotten a rubber rat out of the treasure box is good information to have. I did not have this information. Anyway... Hadji gave the kid the rat. I was kind of surprised. I mean, this is the kid who at age FOUR beat down an 8 year old at the park. (Note: If you are shooting your Nerf gun directly at my little sweet Hadji's face and he keeps asking you stop, and you don't, it might not end well for you.) This is the same kid who smacked a 12 year old in the face for picking on a little girl from kindergarten at the PTA Ice Cream Social. Yep. True Story. Yeah, I am not on the PTA Board this year... )

So, I was a little surprised that Hadji gave in. I asked him more questions, but he didn't know the kid, didn't know whose class he was in, etc. well, there is not much a parent can do with this, so I just typed up an e-mail to his teacher, just so she would know it happened. I hesitated to hit the send button. Call it, mommy gut-instincts, fear of a grammatical error laden e-mail being sent, who knows... but I decided to wait and let Micah read it first.
At bedtime, as I am tucking Hadji in, I ask him, one more time... "Is what you told Mommy about the rat true?" He just looked away. Hmmm... "Hadji, did you tell me the TRUTH or a LIE?"
He finally says, sheepishly, "Not really. I just thought it was a funny story."

First, I am glad I didn't send the e-mail. Second, I went into lecture mode. (we did get the real story. a little girl did keep his rat after he let her see it. recovery efforts are now in progress.) We talked about trust, and how lies ruin that. We talked about how God hates lies, and we want our mouths to speak the truth. Just when I think he gets it, he really gets it and start giving myself that proverbial good parent pat on the back... Hadji looks up and wistfully sighs, "I sure do wish God liked lies."

I officially resign.
the end.


  1. oh Hadji! LOL!! I really have to laugh at this one only because I did the EXACT same thing when I was in 2nd grade. I made up a whole story about a 6th grader punching me on the playground. Don't ask me why. But at least Hadji told you the truth! My mom ended up calling my teacher AND the principal and a whole 'investigation' went into who this mysterious 6th grader was. I just let it go on and on. I didn't tell my mother for YEARS that I had made all that up.
    Why do kids do this?! It's like mother torture! I'm sorry mom!
    it's kind of funny though, isn't it? no?

  2. nothing like keeping you on your toes jude...i'm so curious what other material this kid is going to give you to work with through the years ;)

  3. Must be a middle child thing. Felix lied to me about sneaking a piece of Halloween candy into his lunchbox and ended up grounded from his scooter for a whole week. Fun times. I love Hadji stories, tell us more! And maybe a few Alden and Emerson ones, too.

    Oh, just b/c I'll forget if I don't type it here and now: the other day we were watching something with the boys and a picture of Abraham Lincoln popped up. Being the know it all, must say it first kinda boy he is, Simon goes, "Hey! It's Emerson Lincoln! No...?" He knew Emerson wasn't right, but I can see why those two names correlate in his mind.


  4. The sad thing is.... adults carry on in the same childish ways. Good job mama. Teachable moments.

  5. wow that deadly send button!!!

  6. ARGHHHH!!!! This is too funny. Ah yes, the lying...I just don't get it. Don't. Understand. I guess this is something all kids go through, heck, atleast we can appreciate his honesty in how he feels about lying, lol!!!